How to Make Your Dream a Reality

Rule number 1: You have to DO something.

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It sounds really obvious, but so is most of the advice in any self-help book you can read. I complained for a lot of years that my dream of publishing a book was not coming true, but, um, it was no wonder. For a lot of years, I wasn’t doing anything about it. So then, one day, I sat down and started to write. And promptly ran into a problem.


Rule number 2: Push through roadblocks, however slowly

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It could be a lack of time, a mental block, or a naysayer. For me, my roadblock was not the oft-cited “writer’s block”; rather, every time I tried to sit down and write that book I had in my head, I’d be reduced to tears for the memories the work brought. And then there was the naysayer. Someone told me my book idea wasn’t respectful of my family…and I should reconsider what publishing it would do to them.

No matter which roadblocks you’re facing, there is always a way to keep going. For aspiring writers (or aspiring whatevers) with little time, the best advice I know of is to set a realistic goal for yourself, whether a daily or weekly goal, and stick to it. Maybe you’ve only got fifteen minutes a day. Maybe you’ve only got one hour a week. Whatever you have, build that time into your schedule, and then guard it with your dream.

When I started having those toxic emotional reactions to my work, which literally could incapacitate me from living the rest of my life, well, I shut down for awhile. But in hindsight, I realize that I eventually found other ways to keep moving in the direction of my dream. I came at it from another angle. Although I wasn’t yet ready to write that book in my head, I started reading up on the publishing industry, and I started reading about honing my craft. As I did this, I put the naysayer out of mind, and hoped for a better day to write and publish my book. And this leads to rule number 3.


Rule number 3: Learn from the masters

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So, how did you first develop that precious little dream of yours? I’d just bet it was from watching someone else who was doing that very thing, and saying to yourself, “I want to do that someday, too!”

So here’s the deal: the same place you go for inspiration—be it a bookshelf, a rodeo, or a runway—is the same place you should go to apprentice for your craft. Once I identified memoir as my medium, I became a student of the genre. Not only did I read books about how to write memoir, but I read memoirs. These days I have become a sponge for these things, keeping them by my nightstand, on the coffee table, and in my CD player in the car (audio books). Where I once read only for entertainment, now I read for craft and technique, story development and organization. I read with a critical eye, judging a book’s execution and effectiveness, asking myself, is this a technique I could use? Is it one I’d want to use? Whether a memoir is well done or not, I learn from it.


Rule number 4: Work through personal problems to clear room for your dreams

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Okay, this is probably the hardest rule to follow, and I can’t tell you how to do it; I can only point you to a blog post describing what worked for me. But if you do have some kind of mental or emotional block impeding your work, there must be something you’ll eventually have to deal with before getting on with your dream. If you have to “take time off” from your project to get your life or emotions in order, by all means, do it! This is not wasted time, because when you come back to your project free from the impediment, you will find that you have a vigor for your dream that you never had before.


Rule number 5: Set a deadline with measurable goals

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This rule will vary from person to person, and obviously your timelines and deadlines can change. But the thing here is to write down steps, measurable goals, that will move you closer to your dream, bit by bit. If you can give yourself a deadline and stick to it, you will be much helped, as most people operate best with a deadline.

For myself, after I started doing something and I learned how to keep plugging away at it in some form, even when it was hard; after I had started bathing my mind in masterful examples, and after I had worked through my poisonous personal problems…I came up with a schedule for completing my dream that I’m hoping will carry me through to completion. For now, I am trying every day to “move in the direction of my dreams,” even if it means only fifteen minutes of work. I hope you will do the same, and good luck!


6 thoughts on “How to Make Your Dream a Reality

  1. joedalio June 26, 2013 / 11:02 am

    Thank you for this excellent information! Anyone can succeed by following these guidelines : )

    • lindseygendke June 26, 2013 / 11:15 am

      Happy to help! Glad you found this post useful!

  2. Mike Crape June 26, 2013 / 11:16 pm

    Great points Lindsey and I like the way you put them together. I certainly can identify with most of them and how you have tackled them gives me some ideas that I have not considered. Nice Work!

    • lindseygendke June 27, 2013 / 9:25 am

      Thank Mike. Of course, these things have only become clear to me in hindsight, and I make it sound much easier than it’s been (and I still have lots to learn), but I have found the following little phrase to be helpful: “Do something in the direction of your dreams every day.”

  3. covenant12 July 10, 2013 / 2:58 pm

    Hello! You dont know me, but I see your WordPress blog and I absolutely love it! Your way of writing is incredibly easy to understand and colloquial, with a simplistic approach to sentence structure-something I lack cos i kinda get caught up in using all big words all the time-and I wish I wrote like you. I am going to be a future writer myself, in fact God Himself answered my prayer on what vocation He would have me do. And here I am! I love writing. It is a passion of mine and always has been. Im new on WordPress, so if u dont mind me asking, any tips on how to set up an attractive and unique WordPress Reader blog??? Any insight ins much appreciated. 🙂

    • lindseygendke July 10, 2013 / 5:46 pm

      Thanks so much for the kind words on my writing style. I really appreciate this, because I got out of graduate school six months ago and felt I’d lost the ability to write for the general reader! I’m no whiz at WordPress, design; all I’d say is I just picked a layout that looked attractive to me, then four months in, I finally took an afternoon to figure out how “widgets” worked–these are the things you see on my right-hand side, such as a list of recent posts, a “tag cloud,” etc. You can just google search widgets on wordpress, or search widgets within your dashboard in your wordpress account. That’s about all I know…I need to learn more!

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